But in my new relationship, there’s no funkiness at all, so I love giving him head. My attitude on blowjobs is basically: the spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.
Some days, I feel super confident doing them; a lot of people say it, but it really is a turn-on to see the effect it has on my partner.
But other times, that power dynamic is reversed — especially when women feel obligated to perform oral sex on their partners, even though they're not actually that interested. Especially if the guy is one of those ones who push the head down and try to force you. However, I have come across two guys, and two only, that I have had absolutely no problem doing it for. I actually really love it, and when it's great with a partner, it's a staple.
These are just a handful of the reasons why oral sex may one of the most emotionally complicated sex acts around. Currently, it's not much of a staple in my sex life, and it really bums me out. It's not left out of our sex life by my choice, but by his preference (I know it's not for lack of skill on my part!
On the other hand, I have a very small mouth and a somewhat easily triggered gag reflex, and have met too many dudes that feel entitled to blowjobs, so this is not something I do for guys when we FIRST get together.
I also actually like the experience of it, as long as I'm in the mood to be doing it.That said, I have a sensitive gag reflex and a jaw that tends to cramp up, so I usually can't entirely finish him off.Still, it's fun to get him pretty close before climbing on top of him.And if you're like many women, you might even love it and hate it at the same time.Getting to the heart of the matter with oral sex is complex, because there's more than just physical sensations in play — there's also a complicated power dynamic at work.
Naturally, this means he reminds me of those college night blowjobs all the f*cking time.