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When a guy won’t call you his girlfriend it doesn’t always mean he doesn’t like you or that he never will.
Oftentimes, it may mean that he isn’t ready to commit in that way at that moment.
My relationships at that point would go something like this: we would meet, there would be a spark, we’d hang out a few times, after a few weeks I would freak out and feel trapped and suffocated, I would then lose all interest in the relationship and would do whatever I could to sabotage it.
I felt guilty but also kind of alarmed at my inability to feel anything.
I knew that I controlled everything and it was really hard to be attracted to a guy that would let that happen.
I’m not saying I wanted him to play mind games, but a little restraint and confidence would have gone a long way.
I mean yeah it was nice, but where is the fun and excitement in having someone at your mercy?
I felt very uncomfortable and resentful, not to mention furious with myself for caving in which I couldn’t undo, and it just got very ugly from there.
The reason I felt compelled to share this experience is I think it may help to see things from the other side.
One thing I’ve noticed is that guys don’t bounce back from breakups as easily as us gals do.
They can’t just dive right into the next relationship which is why, I’m sure you’ll notice, the guys that won’t call you their girlfriends are usually still licking their wounds from a previous breakup.
While all this was happening, I couldn’t help but think back to previous relationships where I acted exactly like D.