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Most guys have heard enough horror stories to know that tying the knot isn’t going to make a woman any less likely to cheat or leave, so there’s a general attitude that it’s not to our advantage to risk half of our income on the chance that everything works out.
(Quick insert here: I’ve gotten LOTS of comments that there are many marriages where the woman makes more money than the man and she ends up getting financially screwed.
I have seen men destroyed by it (not to say women aren’t too, I guess I’ve just met more divorced men in my work with guys…) In many cases, when a guy gets married, he’s doing it for you.
Most guys don’t care whether or not there’s a legal document that says you’re married.
The problem is, there are many considerations that guys have to make that you need to consider too. Personally, I don’t plan on getting married until I’m ready to start a family.
When you can understand why a guy might have reservations to getting married (or at least, might not be motivated to get married), it will help you communicate better and ultimately get you to a place where you may both decide it’s time for marriage. That’s just my personal view and I’m not suggesting or projecting that anyone else should share it.
And I understand the reasons: biological clock, all your friends are married, you feel like “it’s time”, you want to have final commitment, etc.Every man has heard countless stories about men getting screwed in divorce settlements.Now I know that there are lots of counter-stories where women have gotten screwed too, but guys don’t typically hear those stories.I don’t know what do to speed up the process when I get the same damn answers . If it’s just a “piece of paper” why won’t he go ahead and sign it? Why would anyone want to force marriage on someone, if it’s not what the other person wants.. He enjoys being in a relationship with you or he wouldn’t be in the relationship, why isn’t that enough?Your situation is harder because you have kids but if he loves you enoigh, he should make proclaim youby making it OFFICIAL and PUBLIC and LEGAL, no othet short cut way around it! And if you want to marry because there is something wrong in your relationship right now: marriage won’t fix it, communication might.