Dating in the dark hard
But the gospel offers real grace for the heart reeling that can happen from finding out about a boyfriend’s or girlfriend’s sexual past.
But it cannot redeem it, at least not in any truly deep and lasting way.
Talk with some sane, godly (confidential) friends your partner. Humble yourself and recognize that your partner with a sexual past may very well understand grace now far better than you do (Philippians 2:3). To stake our value in being the best at everything in a future spouse’s life is absurd.
Jesus says, “Her sins, which are many, have been forgiven, for she loved much; but he who is forgiven little, loves little” (Luke ). If dating is moving towards marriage, and you learn of a sexual history, recognize that you were never pursuing this person so that you could be the — for as long as they both shall live.
He thinks Murphy is a “sloppy, blind white girl” who is imagining things — but as she pursues her investigation, he begins to realize that Tyson really might be dead.
Mistrustful of authority, Darnell refuses to go to the cops about Tyson, but he joins Murphy in her quest for justice — and his admiration and attraction for her grows at every step of their inquiry.