Courting verses dating
The Bible tells us that all that has to do with love can and must be tested.
The test is Rom - "true love does no harm to a neighbour and fulfills the law." So we must find a lawful way for our young people to fall in love and prepare for marriage. It is an established cultural norm to be followed without further question.
Finally, it is naive to think that it is all a matter of self-control. Self-control means refraining from sexual touch of any kind, at least until covenantal engagement.
What is self-control: one kiss, or two, or four, or five? This is not a platonic relationship which regards the body as evil, but a spiritual relationship which regards the body as good.
It always implies some kind of romantic interest, and both parties know this even if the date is going to a church meeting or to a Bible study. Compare this cultural norm with the one that prevailed in western civilization until the early part of this century.
Ask yourself these questions: "Which is more biblical? " In earlier times, all courtship included rigid supervision and protection of the female.
" In our day, dating arrangements are made entirely by young people apart from parental involvement.Our culture finds it hard to make such judgements because the dating scene seems to be an expression of "teenagers in love" - and love is thought to be something that just happens, over which we have no control.Dating is part of the lie of the enemy that is ensnaring our young people.I wouldn't trust myself either in those circumstances." If I wouldn't allow myself to be alone in a car with a woman other than my wife, why should I trust my teenagers?Virginity is not just refraining from what I want to do before marriage, but bringing an inheritance into a marriage by the presentation of a pure body.