Biblical view of dating
• Youth should make chastity vows before they enter high school.
With these vows they should pledge to their parents before God they will not give their bodies over unless they are married to the other person.
Courtship Although the Bible does not lay out specifics regarding courtship, since some of the biblical marriages were arranged by families (for example, the Old Testament patriarch Isaac and his wife Rebecca were brought together supernaturally by God with the order of Abraham), when we piece together all the principles of Scripture we have a good plan for courtship.
Courtship based on the biblical model of love, romance, sacrifice, dignity, and covenant implies the following about how two people could begin a process that may eventually lead to marriage: A person should not even begin to look for a mate unless they are adequately prepared for the responsibilities of marriage and family, and are themselves emotionally healthy and spiritually mature.
This is the only way to avoid soul ties through sexual intimacy.
Also, parents, pastors, or trusted mature people should all be part of the process of discerning the will of God to counter the blindness that comes when feeling in love.
(When two emotionally needy people get together in marriage it is usually a disaster!
) Go on group dates to get to know the other person or work with them in some meaningful innocuous way.
Every youth pastor should be trained on the difference between the worldly concept of dating and the biblical concept of courtship.On this Valentine’s Day week I am attempting to give some biblical clarity on this all-important subject for the sake of our local churches and for the sanctity and safety of the next generation who will soon have their own families.The following are guidelines that best fit young people but many of the principles still apply to older and more mature single adults looking for a mate.For example, it is a huge mistake to marry a person because they are strong spiritually when not attracted to them physically.Or, it is a mistake to marry a person for their personality when their spiritual life is a mess, etc.